When we create family rules, we must keep them to 9 or less. Each family system has individual parts and everything we do or say can affect other around us. During class it was explained to us that each family member is like a piece of a zipper and when we make those little connections, we are all one part of the family. In the cycle of the family systems there is what's called circular causality. It's the idea that everything comes with a background. If you break the circular cycle, it can be for the good or for the bad. When one person tries to change, others around you may seem to try and keep you in the cycle. For example adults may resort back to childhood behaviors. My husband was raised in a not so nice childhood. Sometimes when he gets angry at our children I can see his childhood come out in him. He changed his family system for the most part and for that I am proud.
If you know it's a problem, FIX IT before it becomes worse.
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